The Stages Of Life

Society have led us to believe that by the age of 30 we should all have our lives figured out and planning for retirement, if not retired!! 

If only life was that simple eh? We have all had life experiences which have led us to this moment that we are currently experiencing in life. The different decades which we have waded our way through has brought us to this exact moment which we are experiencing. 

Because of my limited age (40 lol) I will only be able to comment on what I have experienced up until this point. So let’s begin….. 

The stages of life begin before we even realise that we are experiencing life, it has been said that a child aged 7 is the adult you will come to know as they progress through life. ( this is something that I believe as my own child started tidying her room ages 7 without me having to ask) 

Childhood is where we absorb all of the adults around us, from our families, teachers and peers, we are searching for the meaning of living in the world and consistently looking for role models that we learn from. 

The stages of childhood therefore are an important factor to take into account when we are raising children, what we show them is what they believe to be true, whether this behaviour be acceptable or unacceptable a child is like a sponge absorbing in all the information it is being fed. 

Childhood is a place that we more than likely have the most fondest memories, in between all the things that may have not have been so pleasant, children are usually more resilient when it comes to experiences. 

This is where the saying comes in “never lose the inner child” the inner child is the part of us that reminds us to have fun. We often get to a stage of adulthood in which we feel as though we have to act serious which leaves no room for fun 

But fun is something that should happen throughout our lives, right up until the day that we are called back into the larger energy field (heaven). The most fun people often remember is that which forms part of the adolescent years. 

As adolescents we could be caught in defying our parents to go and seek the fun we know they may not have been happy with (parents always have this ability to forget they were once young!) however did we care! Nope we went and seeked that fun anyway!

The teenage years, the years in which we started to test out what we learnt in childhood, demonstrating the same behaviours which we witnessed from our parents, back towards our parents and within our peer groups. 

From staying at your “friends“ house for the night, to sneaking to parties or areas outside of your local area the teenage years are where we really tested ourselves and our parents (the joys of not being caught!!)

We all reached 18 and believed that we were fully grown adults. No one could tell you what to do, you knew more than everyone else and quite frankly your parents were just “old” so what did they know about life!! 

Looking back I cringe at the amount of times I told people older than myself that they never knew anything, because I already had it figured out!! 

In hindsight life would have been so much different had I took the time to listen, but hey I came here to learn my own lessons and learn I did!!

The 20’s is really the place that you start to make your own decisions, some of these decisions would affect your 30’s but at this point you never really understood. After all this is this first decade that you are truly and solely responsible for making your own choices.

And so the choices begin, while we are still being warned regarding some of the choices we are making from our elders, we now begin to take even less notice, and therefore the 20’s is a place where we learn some of the most hardest and major lessons. 

The 20’s mean that we are learning about who we want to become. Some of us will feel as though we have it all figured out, and others will have a wild time, and work it out nearer the end of the 20’s possibly early 30’s. (if they ever work it out at all!) 

The 30’s we begin to derive a clearer idea of who we are and where we are going (for some), and start the process of putting everything into motion. It can still be slightly blurry at the beginning of your 30’s this is dependent on how you ended the 20’s. 

However, overall the 30’s can be a place in which you are able to stop the repeated patterns of the past, and review life up until this point, so that you are able to eliminate some of the behaviours which you may have learnt which are no longer serving you. 

Many start a journey of healing in their 30’s - they identify life struggles and begin to see where they have contributed to the struggle which they have experienced via their own distorted view of life. 

The 40’s I have heard are even better, so although I am unable to comment and give more information on this decade what I do believe is that if my 30’s were as good as they were then the 40’s can only be better! 

Whatever stage you have reached in life, the purpose is all about how much you grow. What you learnt and if you are taking heed of the lessons. 

We go through life sometimes believing that we should not make any mistakes, however it is through our mistakes that we are able to learn. 

There is no magic formula as to what we learn and how we are able to learn it, and therefore this is why life is often referred to as a journey. 

There is also no age requirement to how or what you should have achieved by a certain age. We are all living an individual journey, some of us will reach milestones before others and this is ok. 

During your stages of life try not to become consumed with what others are doing or how fast they seem to be achieving. 

Much time is spent looking at how well another is doing and this in turn will limit your ability to achieve what you need to achieve for yourself. 

Let each person follow the stage of life that they have arrived at. It will not make a huge difference to where you see yourself heading. 

Love, Light and Blessings NSJ 😘

Disclaimer: All information provided are my personal opinions. Any actions taken based on my opinions are solely the responsibility of the reader.