Healing Childhood Trauma

Our childhood is the place that at times we return to for the happiness and memories it may have brought to us before we arrived at adulthood and were hit with the realisations, of paying our own bills, and raising our own families, working, building businesses, supporting friends, family and partners.

Oh what a beautiful picture adulthood was painted in with the many people who warned us of what adulthood would really be like, as much as we ignored them with our carefree attitudes and “I will deal with that stage of life when I get there” We were never truly prepared for what adulthood would really be like. Well here you are, an adult, dealing with the positive and challenging aspects of what life has to offer, but the best part is at least we are still alive so let’s be grateful!

Our childhood and what we experience is a place in which many experiences may happen which we are not fully aware of until we reach adulthood and start reviewing why some areas of our lives just don’t seem to be making any real and lasting progress, while other areas are flourishing.

When reflecting on the areas of childhood which we may not have found so enlightening or fun ( I like to call this part the shadow side of self) we may find that there are some areas that still affect us to this day, and depending on what these experiences may have been, there may now be an element of healing which needs to take place to overcome the memories of what we have seen and also identifying with the fact that we are no longer that child in that place.

Part of our healing from childhood wounds will mean that in some cases we may need to discuss this with the person to whom the wound was first developed, in most cases this may be an immediate family member. What is important is our ability to not only take responsibility for our own healing but also the healing of those who may have created the wounds without intentionally knowing.

The impact of our childhood experiences may have a profound effect on what happens during our adult forming years, it has been said that a child uses the first seven years to review the world around them and after this time they start acting in accordance to what they believe life will be like for the rest of their living days.

Now if this is true, it is our role as parents to ensure that the first seven years of our child’s life is as enriching and positive as it could possibly be! Yeah right, although we may try and show them all of the best qualities life has to offer, there are always going to be times in which our children will be subjected to challenges.

Now I am not here to state that because as children we may have been exposed to things that would affect us in adulthood which are unchangeable. I believe that no matter what we are subjected to within our childhood, once we reach our adulthood it then becomes our responsibility to make the changes necessary to ensure the “generational curse” (as I like to call it) does not continue.

For most of us we had a role model, that we looked up too, and decided that we wanted to be like them. For some of us it would have been our fathers, others our mothers, our grandparents, uncles, aunties anyone who we believed was living a life that we would like to have when we were older. I remember my little cousin used to adore me when she was younger and would often tell her mum “ I wanna be like NSJ Soul - when I older” Every time I heard that I was like “No baby girl you gonna do better than me!!” Thankfully she found out my way was not the best way, and made a way of her own. Minus my short comings!! (Love you Noamie mwah xx)

Over the years, I have heard many say “well, that is how I grew up, and that is all I know” so I am here as the bearer of good news ( or bad news if you chose to remain as you are - only you get to decide) once we reach adulthood we (collectively) have a choice. We can either remain following the path of destruction that was set before us by parents and ancestors who at the time probably did not know any better, nor would they have had access to the resources which we currently have. Or we can make a conscious decision that we want better not only for ourselves, but for the generations that follow after us.

The truth is, our childhoods are the place where we learn most of our adult behaviours, but if these behaviours are detrimental to ourselves and others around us, then we must take responsibility to make the changes necessary to not affect the generations that come after us.

Making changes start and end with us, we cannot no longer place blame on what may have happened, and start looking at ways in which we can adjust to ensuring that it no longer happens. This is not about blame, this is about taking responsibility for not only who you have become, but who you are now becoming.

Love, Light and Blessings NSJ Soul xxxx