Living A Harmonious Life

The back and forth of the mind, the coming and going of everyday life, the demands of family, friends and partners.

It is all that leads to some of us not living a life that may be deemed as the most harmonious way of living that we could be living. Based on the way we manage our time, people, places and situations.

Well, stop! We are now at the place in which the only way to live happily is by taking control of our own harmony. Taking back our power and living the most authentic way of living possible.

It can be challenging with the demands of others and situations which we have within our lives. It is not always easy to do the things that make us feel the harmony and balance that we are searching for.

Harmony is something that will take time, effort and patience. At times we may not understand the importance of what it means to live a life that is stress-free.

We constantly have things going on which need our attention, and therefore we can become overwhelmed with what and where our attention may be needed most.

One of the things that I have found over the years of developing harmony within myself and relationships with others. Is that first I must have and maintain harmony within myself.

How do I do this? I check in with myself, and what feels acceptable to me. Can I do what is being requested of me, or do I have to say no, on this occasion?

For some of us, saying no, is enough for us to feel a sense of disharmony. Especially if this is something that we are used to doing.

However, when we look more deeply, we begin to understand that it is the saying yes when we do not actually have enough time for ourselves, is what causes us the most stress.

Finding balance within life, with what we have to do for ourselves, and what we are able to do for another, is what can help us to live a life that is not only happy but also balanced.

It is always about you, and what you can do, and while this may not be always seen as acceptable to others, it is not about them and always about you.

This may seem quite selfish on the surface of things, and the universe knows I have been called selfish on many occasions. However, I no longer care about the label of being selfish.

If something does not suit what I have to do for me, then why would I want to do it? That is the statement which I stick to. Do you first, and all else will fall into place.

Now I know this may seem easier said than done. But as time passes by, you will become more aligned to making the choices that are always suited to your higher needs.

People will always have something to say, about what you do, the way you are doing it, and how what you are doing is affecting them. This is going to have some level of impact on you.

And in some cases, it may even hinder the rapid progress that you are making towards achieving what you need to achieve for you.

However, the benefits of living in harmony means that not only will you feel better, but you will also start attracting better. Those around you will see that it is not about them, and all about you.

In the most positive way, if you are in harmony with yourself. Then those around you will also be at harmony within themselves. People can only mirror back to you, what you are being to them.

If you want love, you must demonstrate love, if you want peace you must demonstrate peace, to achieve calm, you must be calm first. You see harmonious living all starts with you.

Now I am not saying that now you have decided that you want to live in harmony with yourself and others, that everyone is going to “fall” in line and start living the way you do.

This is where the patience comes in, you will need to be patient with yourself first. The road towards living in harmony is one that you will come across obstacles with.

When I first started this journey, I believed it was going to be easy. I was not prepared for the number of people that I had around me, that was more than willing to “draw” me out of peaceful living.

It was by being honest with myself and what I was trying to achieve that really helped me to identify, that they were not doing it to be spiteful or even to cause disharmony.

They were just so used to me acting in a particular way, that now my mindset had changed. I was now in a place that meant I had to be firm with the new me emerging.

So you see, when you start the journey, people will test you, they want you to still live in the way that they are living. Just so they are able to feel better about themselves, and the connection of disharmony you may have shared.

Staying positive in challenging circumstances can be achieved. You do not have to let people go, but what you may wish to do, is be able to stay around individuals (limited) just to see how far you have grown.

I used to believe that it was by letting people go that allowed me to grow and in some aspects this has been the case. But what was more important was that I was able to learn how to protect my energy so that I remained in harmony with myself.

So how is this achieved? Looking at you, how you respond to life when a challenge comes up. How do you react to something that may not call for that level of reaction. We all work with an ego system.

But it is how far we are willing to let the ego take over our lives. The ego lives in a place of disharmony. I have watched and listened to those who still operate at this level.

Now while there is nothing wrong with it, I have identified that the more time we spend with egotistical people, the higher the chance of us having disharmony in our lives.

Moreover, we do not need to remove ourselves completely, as that would not provide the opportunity for us to see how we have grown.

By engaging with these situations, knowing that we are no longer in a place in which the ego rules our emotions. When you are able to become the observer and the observed you will see the differences in those who live in harmony and those who do not.

This is where you are able to truly see yourself, as one who is living in harmony vs disharmony. You will be able to identify the places that you feel free to be you, and the places in which you feel as though no longer serves you.

The more you learn to love you, the better you will be.

Love, Light and Blessings NSJ 😘