Healing You

Healing can come in many different forms and only you will know the areas in life which are the most important for you to heal in order to live a life that is balanced and peaceful.

Life events are opportunities to grow, expand, experience and develop. D. Hawkins (2012)

The journey that we call healing, is what you chose it to be for yourself. For the purpose of this blog, healing will be looked at in terms of Mind, Body and Soul.

A healthy mind is what in turn allows you to have a healthy body. The mind at times can run away with you, it will make you believe things that are not in actual fact happening and this is what leads to some of the stress that we can feel in life.

Stress can eventually lead to diseases of the mind such as depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems. Be gentle with those who may feel stressed, and allow space as not all people will feel comfortable with speaking at how they feel.

Try not to be scared about talking about how you are feeling, as this may lead to the feeling becoming more severe. And if possible, limit the use of distractions as a way of not having to heal.

Some believe that if they are able to replace what they are thinking or feeling with something that is more uplifting, then what they are feeling or thinking will just disappear.

Healing is about having a healthy mind, body and soul. It is within healing that we are able to find ourselves and truly identify with who we are as individuals. And what we see ourselves doing going forward in life.

Now as mentioned before healing is going to come in many different aspects, so for this blog, this will be broken down into sections. Each section may or may not resonate with you, so choose what is best and if necessary add some of your own healing areas.

The Mind

Our best friend, The Mind, is always there to help us make the most logical decisions?!? Or so we would like to think! The mind is probably one of the harder aspects along the journey to healing, as we tend to have thought patterns which are stored in our minds that are sometimes hard to shake off.

When our minds are not straight we could spend days, weeks or even months trying to make something which we cannot find any logic within.

Not realising that the most logical thing to do would be to let whatever we are worrying about go. This leads to the breakdown of most situations and relationships within our lives. The fact that we will not let go of something that we have in our minds.

The danger with this is that unless you are in the exact same place that you were when you first developed this memory that is now plaguing you, you are just repeating a thought pattern of the past which is no longer serving you.

We can only revisit the past in our minds, it does not mean that is where we are at this present moment. You have to be able to see clearly past what you remember and take the present situation for what it is now.

Our feelings and thoughts always have an effect on other persons

And affect our relationships, whether these thoughts or feelings

Are verbalised or not

D.Hawkins (2012)

If you have read my blog written on energy, or any of my other blogs you will be aware that I have a firm belief that everything is energy.

Therefore remember this, your mind runs off energy, you are not remembering a thought you are feeling the feeling that comes along with that thought.

Let's put it this way, anything that you continue to think about will bring up feelings (not thoughts) of a past encounter. You are then responsible for how you want to feel.

The beauty of the mind is that it can be easily distracted, it is always looking for the next best thing to concentrate on. The quality of your distractions will determine the quality of your healing.

Therefore try not to use distractions that will remind you of what you are trying to heal from. eg, if you are trying to heal from a previous relationship finding a new partner too soon is not going to bring you the results you want.

The Body

The vehicle that allows us to perform all of the tasks that we complete on a day to day basis. The Body is something that we may not always pay the most attention to on a deep physical level.

But how well do you rest the body? How often do you take the time to really recharge the body so that it may heal naturally?

The body as we know needs on average around 8 hours sleep per night, some may get more and others may get less. It is all dependent on what you have going on within your life.

But the reality is our body needs the time to recover from all that we have experienced throughout the day.

While it is understandable that some days it will be harder to relax than others, it is still essential that we find the time to fully relax.

Pick a day of the week in which you relax, have the whole day, do something that means there is no strain on your body. It could be laying on the chair and binge-watching Netflix all day, or sleeping and eating all day.

Whatever it is, allow the body the time that is needed for it to get the rest needed.

Our body is that which will be with us until we are old and grey, and therefore so that we have the best chance of living a healthy life in our older age, it is important for us to look after the body while we have the time.

Again many people will not get the rest because they are busy trying to distract themselves, do not distract so much that the body does not have time to rest.

The Soul/ Spirit

I call mine the Soul others may call it the spirit, whichever terminology you use, it is an important part of you that you will never see, but will always be able to feel.

The Soul is what gives you the feelings within your gut when making decisions or when you are being warned about something.

The feeling of the Soul is always calm and has a small voice as opposed to the big voice which is the Ego.

The Soul will struggle to be able to guide you in life if you are continuously living from the Ego (please see my blog on the Ego for further information).

A healthy Soul is one which is calm, there are many ways in which you may calm the Soul, some may find outlets such as attending church others may do things such as mediate or deeper soul healing such as reiki or crystals healing.

The Soul is our guidance system, it gives you the ability to make choices that will help with the growth and development that we have within life.

When the Soul is taken care of it, and you work with it in the correct manner. It will give you signs and signals that you can follow, which will be beneficial to you in the long run.

My Soul has guided me on many occasions, mostly when I need to make decisions which form a major part of my life. When the Soul is speaking to you, it is usually warning you to make the choices which will be of your highest good.

Your Soul will show you a way forward when you feel as though there is no hope.

Your Soul will lead you to your passions within life, it takes you to places that you believed you would not be able to achieve.

We are constantly being brought to new and eye-opening experiences within life, and we must be able to listen to the guidance of our Soul so that we are able to take steps in order to where we see ourselves to be.

Relationships

There may be some relationships that you have in life that you have not healed. These could be friendships, ex-partners or family.

While it may be difficult having to revisit parts of the past that may be deemed to have hurt you, there is a benefit to speaking to another which you may have had a challenging time with.

Conversation helps you to understand not only the other person's point of view but also allows you the chance to share your thoughts and opinions as to what happened within the relationships.

The healing of relationships is what allows the release of all the burdens that you may have developed within the relationship.

Therefore allows you the opportunity to understand that what happened in the past is where it should stay as you are no longer in this place.

It takes a strong individual to deal with something that they have experienced in the past and revisit it. However, it is also something that needs to be done in order for you to move forward.

One of the important factors to take into account when healing relationships of any kind, is to not have an expectation of what the other person will do after you have conversed on how you may have felt at the time.

This is about you releasing the burden, not about the other person, and you may find that another is not so forward coming with an apology (if that is what is needed) or they may not be able to see your point of view.

Remember this is your healing journey, and therefore it is not about them seeing your point of view and more about you speaking about what you possibly believe hurt you at the time.

Be careful with the words that you use at the time of the conversation.

Try to avoid things such as “you made me feel” and use sentences such as “ I felt as though…..” This will make a difference in how the conversation is able to progress.

As anyone who feels attacked will more than likely shut down as opposed to opening up and hearing what you are saying.

When healing a relationship, try to be objective and look at the other person as well as looking at yourself.

We all have things that we are healing from, and it may be worthwhile understanding that they are also healing or have things they need to heal from as do you.

Love

I have mentioned Love in almost all of my previous blogs. Love is one of the main factors that will heal every area within your life.

Love that is of unconditional nature is the purest form of love that you will ever experience.

Now there is much misconception as to what unconditional love is. You have to see the reality of what it means to be able to love unconditionally.

Firstly, unconditional love starts with yourself. It is having respect about yourself, in every aspect of what you see yourself to be.

Doing things that enable you to feel good and happy about yourself without expecting this love to be delivered from someone. Give to you, and then the rest will follow.

Unconditional love does not allow another to treat you in a way that is deemed to be respectful towards you.

I remember having a conversation with a work colleague, he was considerably younger than myself, and I was explaining what unconditional love meant.

He literally thought that this type of love meant that he was able to treat others in a way that I would not deem to be respectful or loving in any way.

After much discussion, the understanding was reached that unconditional love had more to do with respecting the differences within one another and allowing them to be who they need to be for themselves.

Everyone will come to this conclusion naturally within time. Your role here is to continue to demonstrate the love that is of an unconditional manner with no expectation in return.

Fear

The complete opposite of love, feeling fear is natural within all areas of our lives. Healing fear is really about healing your feelings.

Feelings are what causes us the most fear within life, and most of the time the fears that we have, have stemmed from something that we may have experienced within our past.

Fear holds us back from being able to take the steps forward that are needed for us to have a balanced and healthy life.

Fear makes us believe that what we are trying to achieve will not come to fruition.

This is just a limiting belief system that can be easily removed if we focus on the positive within a situation as opposed to the negative.

Any situation which happens within life happens so that we are able to learn something from it. Therefore instead of allowing the fear to overtake us, it is better if we use the fear to see what it is trying to teach us.

Running away from fear will just allow us to be put in the same situation with another person until we learn what the fear is trying to teach us.

This is called this a cycle, if we face the same thing over and over again with different people at different times, this is usually due to the fact that we are not learning the lesson.

The lesson could be as simple as letting go of the fear of outcomes.

We can become so attached to outcomes that we are unable to see, that if we release the outcome and allow the universe to guide us instead.

We would realise that there is nothing to fear and everything to gain.

Whatever area you feel needs to be healed within life should be done in alignment with your soul. Do not rush the process, and try to not place a time scale on the healing of your Mind, Body and Soul.

It will come together when the time is right.

Song of the week -Ready or Not - Fugees

Ready or not, here I come, you can't hide

Gonna find you and take it slowly

Ready or not, here I come, you can't hide

Gonna find you and make you want me

I am healed, I am at peace, I am Calm.

Love, Light and Blessings NSJ XXXX

References

David.R Hawkins (2012) Letting Go - The Pathway Of Surrender. Hays House: London

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