Communication a necessity for life 🗣

Communication is a important factor for any area of your life to be successful. So then why do we find it so difficult to communicate the easy and difficult factors which may occur within our daily lives.... Social media and developing technology has led to verbal communication becoming almost non - existent ( The amount times my friends have said “did you not see that on FB or IG!” No I bloody didn’t call me and TELL me!!! I swear they think I have stalking time available to check in on dem 🤣... ❤️ you all but not enough to follow your every move 🤣)  People therefore decide that communication can be completed the easy way, a quick message or post and that it is, you’ll know all you need to know about me only not via verbal form... 🤭The thing with this form of communication is that it is not a true reflection of what may be occurring in ones life.. it is a quick method to cover up having to really discuss anything of any true importance....  

The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” ~ Ralph Nichols. One of the barriers of communication is active listening, active listening requires you to listen to what the person is saying and when I say listen I mean LISTEN... not listen to respond, or listen to hear what you want to hear (you’ll just upset your spirit on that one!) or help them find a solution, just listen... sometimes people will want your opinion and others will just want to vent whatever it is they are going through... either of these are fine, so don’t be offended if they don’t take your advice kindly ( especially if it was not requested!!)  

Cutlip and Center (1952) developed the 7 C’s of communication, while not all of these may need to be used in all types of communication it is useful to identify how these may help all types of relationships that require communication from a business to personal perspective.  

If people are made to feel they are unable to communicate with a person this leads to a lack of communication. Therefore based on how we react when someone tries to communicate with us will lead to the types of communication that we receive from this individual. Those who may have had a bad experience when trying to communicate with others will already be at a disadvantage especially if they have not been able to deal with the feelings of not being able to communicate effectively with others previously. (Quite basically reacting badly, means that communication will be limited or cut off before it has even started, so pay attention to your reactions) This is a dangerous playing field, as lack of communication is what breaks down relationships of all kinds, not that it may be intentional but lack of communication may be deemed as a lack of respect. ( respect is another blog of its own!). While what you need to communicate may not be pleasing to the other person, it is not about pleasing them, but more about acknowledging that something needs to be said in order for another to have clarity. This minimise assumptions and builds trust and respect in a healthy manner.  

An important factor to remember is we attract what we are, meaning if you are coming across problems with communication chances are you also have a problem communicating yourself... therefore check yourself before you check another.. become the best person you can be and then watch how easy it becomes to talk rather than assume 😊 

Peace and Love as always T xxxx 

References 

Habits for well - being. 9 effective communication Available at: https://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/9-effective-communication-skills/ Einstein, M (2014) The 7 C’s of communication. Available at: http://www.emailoverloadsolutions.com/blog/7cs-of-communication-and-email  Einstein, M (2014) The 7 C’s of communication. Available at: http://www.emailoverloadsolutions.com/blog/7cs-of-communication-and-email