Healing a broken heart 💔

Dedicated to Cymone Louise Powell 🙏🏾😇

How can you heal a broken heart 💔 During life there are many situations which may arise which lead to our hearts becoming broken... it is in actual fact a part of life, a part some of us would gladly get rid of, but apart of life all the same. A fundamental part of having our hearts broken is what we do after the event... do you learn from a mistake, have you learnt something new about yourself ... or is there something you need to be achieving and your broken heart will now lead you towards your goal? When our hearts have been broken, at the time there seems like there is no way out or even worse no way forward.. however a key factor of your heart being broken is what comes next.... it was only when my heart was broken (on more than one occasion) that I found my true life purpose ... every break allowed me to evolve! In my personal experience, I lost my best friend at the tender age of 24, this was the first time I had known what true heart break felt like... What on earth was I meant to do now she had gone?!? Once I got over the initial shock ( and after some very wise words from my grandmother “people leave, but the world has to go on, get up, get dressed, and make the most of your life”), I was able to review the short amount of time spent with my best friend, and more importantly what she had achieved in her short amount of time.... You see she always had a plan from the age of 11, (this was something I never had) and once she had reached her plan, (and she did!) it was time for her to make her exit..... So her exit made me stop and look at what I was doing, what I had achieved, and what did I want to do next.... ( The beginning of healing my 💔). And from this my plan was born... You see healing from a broken heart is not about, getting over the situation (you never truly get over the feelings that occur from a death of someone close) it is about making the most of what the person or situation offered to you, learning from it, and using it to help enhance your life for the better! Dwelling on a broken heart doesn’t change the fact that whatever has broken your heart is ever going to change... One way I found useful to help me heal, was to place all my feelings and energy of my broken heart to making my plans come alive... my first plan was “ I am getting a degree” ( I now have two degrees!”) and the rest which followed that was all an added bonus, an added bonus because now the focus was not on what I could not change, but on making the difference that I knew my friend would have been proud of... (if I am to stay on this place called earth, I better make the most of it!) We are all going to deal with our broken hearts in different ways, some of us lock ourselves away from the world, others go out and change the world the fact is we always have a choice. Do we use our pain to make the world a better place? Or do we dwell on the pain for the rest of our natural lives.... like I mentioned previously the pain never goes away, but you do learn how to manage it.... On the other hand you have relationships ( usually romantic ones are the ones that get us, but it can be any type of relationship). I am not going to go too deep into this one, as I am going to write a separate blog on relationships (I mean that could be deemed a topic of its own!) However when a relationship comes to end especially a long one, it may seem like the end of the world, and for some they can never really get over it... When a relationship ends people tend to go over and over, what they could have done differently, what they should have said, what they would do if they had another chance... the list is endless.... The fact of the matter is the relationship is over! Now is the time to heal the broken heart, again you have a choice, do you take what you learnt from the relationship and put all the energy and feeling into making a change in your life.. or do you dwell on the would of’s could of’s and should of’s? Having your heart broken is not an easy process.. but hey if life was easy it would be boring... so instead of dwelling on the heartbreak accept it, review it and move on.... greatness always awaits the other side of a heartbreak! Moral of the story... The easiest way to heal a broken heart is by taking the pain, and putting it into something that will benefit your life.... and in some cases the lives of others Peace and love T xxxxx