Commitment... what does this mean to you?

Commitment- do you have the staying power? Commitment that dreaded word that some can only attach one meaning too... I am NOT settling down.....!!! The Oxford dictionary meaning however... an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action... Hmmmm okay I can see why it may frighten some while others need it for security... Personally, I get the ones that run away from commitment, damn I was a runner for at least 20 years, however everyone’s reasons are different but I am assuming most people (not all) don’t like the feeling of being obligated in such a way their freedom is restricted (I am an Air sign for goodness sake I need to move like the wind!!) Commitment is not an area that only affects relationships contrary to the belief of some, the likelihood is, if you can’t commit to one thing, you’re not committing to anything let alone anyone! So say you meet someone and they are regularly changing their jobs, the chances are they are regularly changing every aspect of their lives (I am working with experience here), as they have no need to commit to anything or person for long enough to feel that restriction to their freedom... example... say I meet a guy and I ask him about his employment status... Me “ so what do you do for a living” Him “do you know what babes, I am kinda in between jobs right now you know” Me *alarm bells ring* “okay, starting a new job you mean” Him “hmmmm, yeah kinda kinda” Me... silence.... okay... the weather is nice today, love me some sunshine (or this conversation is done commitment issues!) *(By the way I don’t chat to guys who use the terms babe, kinda or end their sentences with you know... judge me I don’t care 🤣🤣🤣)*

When looking at the area of commitment two keys words jump out want vs need... Want is a desire to do something, to be with someone, to achieve your own goals, to come and go as you please (within an agreeable reason for those of you in relationships) etc... Need - hmmmm, needy people usually lack the commitment skills necessary to achieve the desired result... therefore be it work or play there is the need to frequently chase the next best thing... I am not saying there is anything wrong with chasing the next best thing especially when it comes to career choices... but at least feel the need to stay long enough to see if you can progress (and the same applies to relationships!) this will actually help to develop the lacking commitment skills. If it is a committed relationship you’re looking for, make sure that you’re both on the same page... if someone says that they’re not looking for the same thing in regards to what you are looking for pay attention, as no amount of trying to change them will change them people change only if they want too, and of you do manage to get them to ‘change’ for you, do not be surprised when the “change” back to who they were in the first place!! Those are the ones you can safely say they are committed to staying uncommitted... don’t waste your time! Commitment takes courage, it is a situation in which you need to allow yourself the ability to feel vulnerable without the fear of the outcome only being failure.... commitment probably makes better sense in the long run even if you cannot see it now.... my current job is the longest job I have every been committed too, and it has only been 4 years... (commitment issues deal with 🤣🤣🤣) however if you love what you do commitment becomes an easier option than running! Moreover, do not expect to receive commitment to any area in your life if you are not committed too.... I have many people who say “he/she just won’t commit to me” or “ I can never stay at one job for too long” hmmm “are you willing to commit to them, are you what you class as commitment?” Is always my answer to them... this process works two ways and you have to be ready to take it when it arrives... commitment my friend begins with you 😊 Moral of the story... Commitment should not be something we fear, no one has the ability to stop or restrict your freedom, so let the commitment begin with you!